The things we do for love

One of my main story lines for playing with my Barbies as a little girl (Ok until the age of 12) was courtship. I didn’t actually have a Wedding Day Barbie but the plot was always leading to marriage. Ken would woo Barbie, (of course we had better names for the characters involved but they escape me) Barbie would resist his advances, prolong the courtship, consider her options, go shopping, focus on her career. The first kiss was always the end of play. After that crescendo, happily ever after seemed boring. It’s all in the anticipation.

But it would seem that lots of kids and not only kids do marry off their stuffed toys. And pets.

Exhibit 1.

Amorous groom v puppy dog eyes <- watch this video

This Groom is so full on that he doesn’t even notice they are getting married on a toilet, or that the Bride is actually checking out one of the Ushers just out of shot stage right throughout. What a faker.

Exhibit 2.

Royal wedding with a twist

http://www.herewearetogether.com/2011/11/22/christmas-toy-round-up/

Apparently this is Wills and Kate in Sylvanian Families form.

Way to stereotype with the black priest!

 

 

 

Exhibit 3.

Mario v Smurfette <-watch this video

This Bride and Groom have opted for an Entrance song mash up, to reflect their individual personalities. Unfortunately their goofy guests don’t even try to stop the gatecrasher zombie ex from ruining the ceremony. Tisk.

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And now for something more serious.

http://deathbypoprocks.com/2011/09/02/apparently-puppies-have-been-getting-married-to-each-other-since-1956/http://thelatest.i.ph/blogs/thelatest/?p=28

You just know that ‘grown ups’ were behind these scenes of matrimonial bliss.

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And finally, one of the noughties’ most touching love stories… <- watch this video

Baby Styling

I started writing a baby goody wish list last November before I was pregnant, so it’s no surprise I started buying must-have baby clothes from Ebay within weeks of finding out I was expecting our baby boy.

I don’t see our baby as a fashion accessory and I don’t want to live through him by making him wear stuff that makes me look good! I do want my tastes and personality to be reflected in the choices I make for him. I want it to be pretty obvious he is our baby. I want him to enjoy wearing the things I have chosen for him. I want to enjoy dressing him in things that make us (baby and me) both smile.

Monkey Baby

One of my first Ebay purchases – Paul Frank hat and booties. You know how most little girls love teddy bears, baby dolls, or are really into horses? Well in my family, it’s monkeys. My Dad named me monkey chops as a baby. Monkey themed clothes seemed the obvious choice!

Most monkey designs involve calling your little one a cheeky monkey. So I was pleased to find this George outfit complete with monkey faces on the feet.

Both from Ebay. Strong mouse rattle from Ikea.

Circus Baby

The other main ‘theme’ I’ve gone for when shopping for our baby is ‘circus’. It started with some circus finger puppets and crib canopy I just had to have. Then we went to Baby Gap. Bunting reminds me of our wedding, and I have bunting up around the house and garden, and even have my own wedding fayre bunting. The bunting outfit and hat are organic cotton which is deliciously super soft and the quilted trousers and jacket are reversible. <3

All Baby Gap: hat from Ebay, other items in the sale in store!

Circus Chic Baby

Completing the circus look are these two gorgeous grows from Mamas & Papas. One of my full price splurges! Not only are they funky circus but they are chic français too! Ben and I are both a bit francophile and feel much more comfortable dressing ourselves and our brood in either nostalgically English or French designs rather than paying attention to high street fashion. The names we have chosen for our babies are all a little bit French, and while I’m not crazy about the blue striped ‘prison’ baby outfits you can get, I will be buying childsized berets! :)

OCD Baby

Some great value multipacks from Mamas & Papas, chosen for the unisex colours and general adorableness. Now our baby need not worry about which outfit to wear each day – there’s one for each day of the week! Our baby is due in July, so these sleeveless, legless body suits will be perfect for keeping fresh and cool.

I have noticed a slight obsession with eggy weggs in this range. Will our baby take after his Daddy and crave boily egg and soldiers every weekend? Anyone else think the gingerbread man’s spoon looks like a tennis racket?

I’m not sure about the fold over hand muffs: he’ll have to have really short arms!

First Day Baby

At the moment, this is the outfit we are thinking our son will wear on his very first day. The little bodysuit says Welcome to the World. I want his first hours with us to be as easy and reassuring for him as possible. I think white will sooth us and let us get to know best him by focusing on his little face. He’ll have these non slip socks in case his feet get cold, his first present from his Nanna, my Mom.

I don’t want to over dress him for the first few months, when he’s a real babe in arms. I like the idea of wrapping him in various blankets for warmth rather than cardies and jackets.

This little fella is Barnaby Button, or Baby Barnaby as we call him. He’s a teddy that holds a comforter blanket for the baby. We fell in love with his sad little face and had to rescue him from his previous home where he was sat on a shelf getting dusty. We are sure he will make our baby very happy.

Grow and bear by Mamas & Papas, from Ebay. Socks from Gap.

Snuggle time Baby

These are all outfits that are comfy, cushdy and cosy. Just looking at them sends me half to sleep. I’m thinking of using them as the baby alternative to ‘best’ pjs. I can just imagine dressing him in these after a nice relaxing bath before we read some bedtime stories. Then again, they are smart enough for visitors, and if everyday can’t be a pj day when you’re a baby when can it?

I love that all these babygrows have built-in feet and cute little collars! I’m a fan of rounded baby collars, but expect they seem a bit old-fashioned, and a bit too feminine for a baby boy, to others!

All Mamas & Papas from Ebay. Yellow babygrow and fluffy booties John Lewis.

Sleeping Baby

These are grow bags from the Gro Company which are baby sleeping pouches with arm holes, not bags of soil for growing tomatoes. :) I’ve bought one light and one heavier tog to last the first six months. I love this idea and just hope our baby does too! Not only do these bags save me buying bedding for the moses baskets, they save me from worrying the baby will get tangled up in his blankets!

You can see that I’m an awful mother and haven’t ironed any of these things. I’m undecided. I don’t iron our bedding. It could be worse, I could be buying one use disposable baby grows.

Ebay of course :)

Novelty Baby

Animal ears on babies are all the rage but so often they don’t belong to any particular animal costume. If our baby is to wear ears on his head, he’ll sport a tigger face and body too! :) This outfit has proven especially helpful for Ben trying out his baby holding skills, as it gives us an idea of head position. It’s super cute with that tummy area, and we can’t wait to put him in this when it’s time to go in his tigger door frame bouncer.

Bouncer and tigger suit from Ebay, by Disney.

Man Baby

The day we found out at the scan that baby Catley-Richardson is in fact baby boy Catley-Richardson, we set out determined to buy something exclusively boy, which meant blue. I had been buying unisex clothes because I would really like them to be worn by all our babies. I also don’t see any reason to dress boys in blue and girls in pink. No matter their age. Blue is my favourite colour and I’m all woman! I want to bring out our baby boy’s softer side, so I really don’t want his clothes to be plastered with trucks, cars, robots, and planes, builders or surfboards. With his genes, he is much more likely to be a poet or an actor than a mechanic. Hence the beret.

When it comes to bringing our son (or sons as it may be) up, we have pretty strong feelings about teaching him about being a man, not a lad. We want to bring him up to be a gent. So after struggling to find any baby boys clothes that we liked, this little number from Gap seemed to fit the bill. It’s going to be the outfit he wears when Ben very proudly takes him out on his own for the first time.

Big Baby

And finally, without getting too ahead of ourselves, there are just times when you see something so perfect in a shop that you have to get it. Even if it means the purchase will sit in a drawer for 18 months until it fits your baby! This long-sleeved T-shirt (Gap) is for our would-be 12 month old. This is exactly the kind of message we want him to be reminded of every day.

I’m not going to hunt down a whole range of motivational slogan clothing for our kids, (although now I’m curious!) but I do believe our children will benefit from having surroundings and clothes that reinforce the things we teach them. I’m sure we as parents will benefit from being reminded of the things we set out to teach them too.

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Stay tuned for similarly opinionated posts about the nursery, the toys, the nappies!

Picture this

You’ve chosen your professional photographer and come up with a list of must-have shots and family group poses. You’ve done your homework and know exactly the style of photography you want for your wedding and have given the photographer a long brief to that effect. You’ve even bought your wedding photo albums. You may have decided to hand out disposable cameras for your guests to take snaps throughout the reception. You’ve bought a nice guest book for friends and family to sign and a special pen to go with it.

STOP!

www.awkwardfamilyphotos.com

www.awkwardfamilyphotos.com

What about this?

Wedding Photo Booth

http://www.snaparazziphotobooths.co.uk/weddings.htm

www.snaparazziphotobooths.co.uk/weddings.htm

What is it? A photo booth that produces strips of ‘passport’ photos, unlimited and free of charge to your guests! It’s set up and managed for you. Most companies will provide props.

Equipment needed: Phone or internet and credit card to book with. Try to get a recommendation for the company you use.

Pro:

  • You can leave the professionals to it, totally hassle free
  • Tremendous fun for your guests, particularly i) squeezing multiple people into the booth ii) time pressure between snaps iii) taking loads of snaps and getting creative with poses
  • The booths produce a copy for the guest AND a copy for the guest book
  • Booth prints look cool on your fridge as well as in albums
  • Quality print outs
  • Great if you and your guests like dressing up/getting creative

Con:

  • Close up shots only
  • Limited number of people per shot
  • Crazy rush to change wig/specs/mask in between shots can result in lots of blurred ‘fail’ shots
  • You’re reliant on the props provided – not tailored to your theme
  • More expensive than the DIY option, extra expense if you choose to have a professional photographer aswell
http://photoboothprops.net/

http://photoboothprops.net/

DIY Wedding Photo Booth

http://weddingtweets.com.sg/be_inspired/ideas-wedding-photo-booth

http://weddingtweets.com

What is it? The homespun version of the above.

Equipment needed: A backdrop of sorts, picture frames in various sizes, cut out boards, props, chalk and blackboards, a camera, tables, chairs, instructions for guests

Pro:

  • Complete control – you can tailor it to your theme and your guests, you can personalise it
  • A relatively cheap alternative
  • You can set up your booth outside!
  • Flexibility – You could use a digital camera, a polaroid camera, or even disposable cameras
  • Polaroids look cool in frames or pinned to the fridge or kitchen noticeboard as well as in albums
  • You can fit as many people as you like in the shots
  • If you supply a chalk board for guest messages you won’t need a guest book at all

Con:

  • Someone has to take the photo (This could be a paid pro but it defeats the money-saving aspect. This could be whoever is free, but they might take bad photographs!)
  • Stress over/time spent buying props
  • Stress over/time spent setting the booth up
  • Stress over the camera going missing/breaking
  • While digital snaps can produce multiple printouts, you only get one polaroid so you’d have to stop your guests from taking them home!
  • If you don’t use a polaroid, you might wish you had spent a bit extra and got more professional looking pics
http://www.glamour.com/weddings/blogs/save-the-date/2010/05/real-wedding-a-crazy-colorful.html

by Jenny Feldman www.glamour.com

Caricature Artist

What is it? An artist who will mill around your guests informally and draw funny pictures of them. The drawings can form a photo/guest book of sorts.

Equipment needed: Phone or internet and credit card to book with. Try to get a recommendation for the artist you use.

Pro:

  • Captures your guests personalities as well as their looks
  • A very different type of guest book to flick through in years to come
  • Could be right up your street and your guests could love it
  • Drawings can feel more personal than photographs
  • Doubles up as entertainment for your guests
  • Drawings can be framed and displayed on walls
  • No risk of expensive equipment breaking or going missing

Con:

  • Drawings take longer than photographs
  • The artist probably won’t get round all your guests
  • Single portraits only, no group shots
  • Only produces one copy and your guests are likely to want to take drawings home with them
  • Caricatures are not very flattering
  • It’s not everyone’s cup of tea
http://www.weddingspot.co.uk/wedding-tips/a-caricaturist-for-your-wedding--c2271

www.weddingspot.co.uk

Picture Frame Decorating

What is it? An activity for younger guests. They can make their own frames for you to use with photos of them from your day.

Equipment needed: Cardboard, scissors, glue, glitter, other craft supplies, on a table covered with an oil cloth (for spills)

Pro:

  • Keeps younger guests entertained
  • A lovely gift from them to you
  • Saves you having to buy lots of frames
  • Cheap and easy
  • Personal

Con:

  • Could be messy
  • You might want someone to ‘supervise’
http://www.partyideasparade.com/3d-heart-doily-photo-frame-craft-kit.html

www.partyideasparade.com

English country garden wedding: stationary

One of my favourite and a very popular wedding theme: English country garden party/summer fete. This theme usually has an air of nostalgia. Key features include bunting, Pimms, informality, afternoon tea, hay bales, homemade favours.

I *tried* to make my own wedding invitations, but they looked rubbish. I ended up using a design from Tickled Pink and asked them to change various colours and font sizes to suit our wedding (and my perfectionism) perfectly. This was a bit of an extravagance, but they are gorgeous and I’m still so pleased with them. I really wanted to set the scene with our stationary, and I think we succeeded in letting our guests know the type of wedding we were planning and what they could expect. Here they are!

A year has passed so I’m wondering which stationary would I pick out if I was planning my wedding now?

I still love Tickled Pink. Their designs are crisp and impressive enough for special wedding stationary yet so down to earth and unpretentious. That’s a pretty hard balance to strike, but they get it right. Check out these super pretty designs which would all be great for an English garden theme:

Vintage Hearts

English Rose

Lace and Roses

Winter Wreath

Heart Invites has a new stationary collection called County Fayre. It combines lovely pink and green bunting with a fine green polka dot background. I’m not overly keen on the font which is a bit too modern in a wild wild west way for my tastes.

Country Fayre Range

I’ve also found this beautiful hand-painted stationary available from Pip Pip Designs. Their range is small but gorgeously and quintessentially English. This is my favourite design of theirs:

Bunting Wedding Stationary

Victoria Whincup offers these delightful personalised invitations, hand-drawn and hand-painted through her Etsy shop. I particularly like this design, which feels organic, floaty and gives a great sense of relaxed informality. Do browse her adorable designs. Her style reminds me of Rob Ryan’s papercutwork which I love.

Pink Flowers

Giftwrappedandgorgeous bring you Kate Lewis Design Wedding Stationary. Her cake and bunting design is hand-finished with sequins and crystals but remains rustic with a bubbly, fun feel.

Applique Cake

For a more homemade look how about this from Tailored Wedding Plans.

Bunting Style Wedding Invitation

Vintage Brown Card Floral

Tailored Wedding Plans do great table plans too. This vintage glam look would have been great for my think pink wedding :)

Crystals, Pearls and Vintage Style Lace

Another fabulously pink invitation is available from Beautiful Day through Not On The High Street.com

This design might be my most favourite of all! It combines bunting, cake, roses, and a bit of glam. Love it! This just shows how researching outside of ‘wedding’ suppliers and websites can yield the very best results!

Shabby Chic Bunting Party Invitation

I search for things like this one of two ways. Type your search terms into Google Images and click into the websites belonging to the images you like best. Chances are if a company does a bunting design, they will do other designs that fit with the English country garden theme too. Or search for local companies who specialise in bespoke or hand-painted stationary. You can link through to great Stationers through the websites of other wedding suppliers who share the same type of ethos or niche focus.

Happy hunting stationary lovers!

Baby talk and talking to kids

At 23 weeks pregnant (4 months to go) my baby can now hear. Mostly our baby boy will be listening to my heartbeat, it will probably lull him to sleep. He’ll also be starting to listen to our conversations, even if they are just muffled noises – daddy’s low bassy pitch and mummy’s higher softer voice. From the start, I have been really keen for Ben to talk to the baby so that he feels as connected as I do to him. Ben really opens up to the baby and I love listening to him tell our son about me as well as his own day, his thoughts, and feelings.

http://www.lolroflmao.com/2011/10/20/dont-stop-believing-baby-with-headphones/

I’m the quiet one, the listener in the relationship. I don’t like to talk about myself or my problems. I’m a writer, and have written extensively to my baby since the day we found out we were pregnant. I’ve covered everything in my letters to Baby, from choosing his name, shopping for his clothes, to food cravings I’m having and songs I’ve found for him that make me cry. So I haven’t spoken to the baby much at all. I am trying to say the odd thing now his hearing is developing. Mostly I just say ‘Hi’ I ask him if he’s OK, if he’s having a little sleep. I describe things to him I wish he could see, if I’m out on a nice walk. I really struggle to know what else to say to him at the moment.

Talking to children has never come naturally to me. Smiling, yes, that’s what I find myself doing. I find a lot of children too shy to initiate conversations when they meet you for the first time. Others do try to tell me things and I can’t understand what they’re saying! I find myself asking children questions to encourage conversation but all too often they turn out to be closed questions. I’m too eager to help them to answer and should probably become more comfortable with longer pauses while they gather their thoughts.

It’s much easier to converse with a child you know, or share something with. It’s the same with other adults! Common ground makes for easier conversation. So when you feel you have nothing in common with a child or a baby, where do you start? You try to discuss things you think they are interested in, but what if you get that wrong. They soon let you know if they find your chosen topic boring!

http://www.motifake.com/tags/staring

It makes me wonder how much conversation with my own kids will be meaningful. Take the proportion of conversations you overhear on the train and in bars and restaurants. Most of them are about nothing, mundane non-talk, observations, loose plans.

I know at the moment all my baby needs is to hear the sound my voice makes. I know that I will be able to teach him to speak by repeating words and pointing out what things are called, letting him watch my mouth as I speak. Yet I still picture us sat opposite each other just looking at each other. Not saying anything. I’ll just be smiling and saying dumb things like ‘Hi’.

It would be like a really bad first date.

Well, thank goodness actions speak louder than words. I can’t help but be active with kids, so I know I’ll be an active mom. If I get bored, I’ll assume the baby is bored. So we’ll constantly be going somewhere or doing something just to get as much sensory input as possible. And when all else fails, me and my baby boy will snuggle up for a bit of Disney movie education. I’ll teach him to sing all the songs.

http://ginandbiscuits.blogspot.co.uk/2011/02/dumbo-1941-no-4.html

Mothers Day

I never got Mothers Day, until now. Now I’m mothering my own unborn baby. So I want to dedicate this post to my Mom and explore what she means to me.

Me at 2 years old, with Mom

People have always said I look just like my Mom. It’s true. I don’t see her when I look in the mirror, but I love all the physical similarities only her and I notice. The up close and personal things like where our freckles appear, the lines on our necks, our rogue hairs. I take after my Mom in a lot of ways. Inherited or learnt, I’m sure she can see her best and worst in me at times.

This post isn’t about how much I love my Mom, but how much I admire her. I admire her strength. Mom has never been a burden to anybody and never will allow herself to be. She doesn’t show her fragile side very often at all, she always holds herself together, and gets on with things.

She doesn’t give up. She always has a go at something rather than asking for help or just leaving something undone. She believes in herself and others, she believes that things can be done, that things are possible. She taught me to be positive and to be independent. She taught me the best kind of strength. Strength for others. And strength of belief.

On the garden swing with Mom

Mom believes in people and in goodness. She has reasons to be bitter, and to be selfish, but instead she gets better each passing year. She doesn’t hold the past against the future. Just because something didn’t work out once, doesn’t mean she can’t believe that it won’t work out the second time.

We never shared the same political passions but she gave me the strength to fight for a cause. My Mom is a good citizen. She’s the one who will write letters, make phone calls, stand up for people and for what is right. She gives her time and energy to others in need. It doesn’t matter if something doesn’t affect her directly, it only matters that she can do something about a situation that negatively affects someone or something.

I appreciate history and tradition and because of my Mom, photos and objects from our past have been saved, displayed, brought into our current lives to remind us of where we have come from. She’s so sentimental, but in the best way. She puts in so much thought and love into gifts and gestures that transform presents into treasures.

Me at 2 months old with Mom

Like me, Mom has super high standards. She expects a lot from herself. Her house is always beautifully kept. The dinner table is always laid with such care. The welcomes and send offs she gives make you feel so special.

My Mom doesn’t ask for much for herself. She likes a bit of culture. She’s a classy lady. A bit of sunshine, a walk somewhere pretty, good food and wine, good company. That’s all she wants. She is in no way greedy. She has given me a fantastic attitude towards money. It’s for living. If you don’t need it, share it with others. Benefit others as well as yourself.

Like her own Mom, my Mom loves to laugh. Smiling suits her. She’s so beautiful when she is happy. It makes me want to do everything in my power to make her happy. She loves a good party and has a wicked sense of humour and sense of fun. Sometimes too much for my sensitive and serious side! Mom is fun and will always be young at heart.

Mommy and me

The usual Mothers Day cards don’t do my relationship with my Mom justice. I don’t want to thank her for the things she does for me. For like her, I’m very independent. No, I want to thank her for being in my life, because she is a joy to know. I love the woman that is my Mom.

I admire my Mom. To me, she’s a wonderful role model of how to be a woman, a friend, and a mother.

Wedding cakes with a twist

Wedding Cake Traditions and Traditional Wedding Cake

Wedding cakes make fantastic centre pieces, and are chosen as much for their visual appeal as for how they taste! The classic multi-tiered affair became popular I believe in Victorian society after a cake designer took inspiration from St Bride’s Church in London. I wonder if the steeple itself took inspiration from the cute older tradition of piling cakes as high as possible to challenge the Bride and Groom to kiss over the top of the cakes? What a fun game! As with most wedding traditions, the couple could expect prosperity and fertility should they succeed in kissing over the cake tower! Nowadays the ritual associated with the special cake is the joint cutting of it and feeding it to one another by the newlyweds. These important first joint acts and exchanges as husband and wife symbolise the bodily and spiritual nourishment the couple have pledged to provide each other throughout their marriage.

http://www.1weddingsource.com/history.php

The luck imbued in the cake was treasured by couple and guests alike after the Wedding too. Ladies! If you sleep with a slice under your pillow you will dream of your future husband! While the convention of saving the top-tier of cake for the Christening of your first-born child has recently given way to saving the top-tier for your first Anniversary. But with fewer people opting for fruit cake and fewer cakes having tiers, the saving of cake to be eaten at the next big event looks set to become a thing of the past.

One delightful cake tradition that has sadly fallen out of fashion is to bake different charms into the cake, (“cake pulls”) so that when ribbons are pulled, your Bridesmaids receive different blessings depending on the charm revealed. A Heart: for love. A Clover: for luck. An Engagement Ring: you’ll be the next to wed.  An Anchor: adventure will come your way. A Flower: love is going to bloom. A Horseshoe: you are lucky in life. If you like the idea of the nostalgic bridal luck charms I discuss here, why not make this sweet tradition part of your wedding too?

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Reinventing the Wedding ‘Cake

I like to deconstruct every element of the wedding so that it can be reimagined in a fresh, fun way which suits the couple and the wedding they dare to dream of. A wedding cake generally serves the following purposes:

  • It is a stunning centrepiece to the reception room
  • It is a tasty treat for guests to look forward to
  • It has to feed all your guests
  • If you want to cut it, it needs to be cuttable
  • It has to not spoil or melt as it stands on show for at least a few hours

Given this ‘cake’ criteria it is apparent that the cake need not be made of make at all. There are many reasons why you may not want a cake cake. If you are servings lots of cakes as part of an afternoon tea spread; if you dislike cake; if you want your food budget to go further; if you particularly like the look of towers or croquembouche; or particularly like another type of sweet treat.

Cheese

Myself and my husband went for a cheese tower draped with tomatoes, figs, and grapes instead of a cake cake. A) I love cheese, and it just seemed so fitting B) we didn’t have a traditional wedding breakfast but afternoon tea, so we needed savoury not more sweet! C) the cheese tower still had the shape of a wedding cake, and the three tiers could still be cut by us.

Pie

Pork, chicken, vegetable… theoretically you could make a tower of pies, with any firm filling. A fruit pie would soon turn to messy mush, but savoury pies provide an easy to slice, tasty and substantial alternative. A practical option with the oooooooo! factor.

Chocolatehttp://www.choccywoccydoodah.com/product/0363/Three+Tier+Vortex

If money had been no object? Choccywoccydoodah, and not just because they have a funky name. These chocolate sensations do look quite tricky to cut and are ‘only’ chocolate coated. But what a coating. These cake cakes are all about the chocolate and the sculpture created. If you were going to choose a cake cake, this company offers the most delectable choice of sponges as opposed to the usual vanilla, chocolate, lemon or carrot.

Don’t Tell The Bride does have its moments. A creative Groom designed his own chocolate box wedding cake which instead of a cake and fruit filled chocolate box tower cake you can order from Patisserie Valerie or Druckers (YUM!) he went further and revealed to his Bride a chocolate made chocolate box with individual chocolates inside it! Marvellous! I wonder if Thorntons do these.

Towers

Pile fudge, l, or profiteroles high to make a wedding cake shaped tower. There are no tiers and it might be impossible to slice but who cares when you can dive in and start scoffing these morish morsels!? Cupcake towers have become uber popular lately. It’s cake already individually portioned so saves all that cutting and holding the crumbley slice over a napkin while you eat it, but it’s still cake. Bitesized confectionary or patisserie somehow seems more decadent. I also love that while the individual pieces of yum are easily plucked one by one, they can be laced together with streamers of chocolate, so that the ‘cake’ is one.

Twistshttp://www.marthastewartweddings.com/226890/gateaux-de-mariage-croquembouche

I think what makes tiered cakes so pretty is the diagonal dressing with flowers or other decoration, so that the tower takes on a twisted effect appearance. Towers can easily be given a twist by stacking slightly asymmetrically. My advice with every aspect of your wedding is to think about what suits YOUR wedding best. So if you are having an early wedding and want to serve brunch, how about a sweet breakfast pastry tower – almond and chocolate croissants, Danish pastries, cinnamon swirls. For an evening do how about an after dinner coffee and mint theme or cocktail theme? For weddings in the tropics, baked Alaska; and for winter weddings serve your cake hot, flambe and carve the sponge and serve with custard?

For a metaphorical twist, there are cakes with a super surprise inside. Yes this could be a full-blown person, but think along the lines of the bridal good luck charms, and perhaps you could hide sweets, chocolate money, lottery tickets, easter eggs, kinder eggs! inside a regular looking sponge cake.

Fountains

If you don’t care about the cake being sliceable, but want maximum tower centrepiece effect, why not consider (guilty pleasures of mine) chocolate and/or champagne fountains? I adore the concept of these edible fountains. They really encapsulate the spirit of sharing and diving in I associate with the wedding cake. An added bonus is that unlike the other options, as they are devoured, they do not lose their shape or illusion of plenty. Who wants to choose between chocolate and champagne? If I could plan my wedding over again, I’d have one of each.

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Our cake :)

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Ben getting a mouthful

A cracking cracker

 

 

Naming Ceremony? Why bother?!

When you have a baby, what do you think of doing to officially welcome them into the world and into your family? I am finding that people who don’t necessarily want a Christening aren’t holding any ceremony for their new additions because they never get round to it, or think it’s too much hassle to organise. Those who naturally think of a Christening as the proper initiation into the world often see a Humanist Naming Ceremony as a non-religious non-ceremony. As well as sharing my answers to some frequently asked questions, I wanted to respond to these two surprising misconceptions.

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Why do people hold Naming and Welcoming ceremonies?

These ceremonies are chosen so that a baby or child can be formally and publicly welcomed into the family. They may be held upon the birth or birthday of a new family member or on the occasion of the marriage or partnership of parents, or a successful adoption.

What’s the difference between a Naming or Welcoming ceremony and a Christening?

Whereas a Christening focuses on welcoming a baby or child into the church, a Naming ceremony focuses on welcoming them into the family and lives of your loved ones. Humanism simply means human-focused, which means that the ceremony is all about you and your child, rather than about the child and God. Because it’s all about you, your ceremony can be a celebration of the strength and closeness of relationships, and a celebration of your pregnancy – or the end of it, with a well-deserved acknowledgement of the Mother, as well as a celebration of new life and new beginnings.

What’s the difference between a Baby Shower, a Baby Naming, and a Welcome to the World party?

Baby Showers are usually held before the birth of a baby, and give the (usually female) friends of the Mother-to-be a chance to shower her with gifts for her and the baby. A Naming ceremony has the added bonus of involving the whole family, as well as the baby itself! A Naming or Welcoming ceremony may form the focal point of a Welcome to the World party. A party would usually involve speeches by parents and symbolic acts like cake cutting and gift giving so a ceremony provides the perfect opportunity for a fuller expression of everybody’s joy and hopes for the family.

Who can a Naming or Welcoming ceremony be held for?

Namings and Welcomings can be held for babies and children of any age. A ceremony can be held for multiple children whether they are siblings, or cousins, or just friends.

Can we still appoint Godparents?

You can still appoint friends or relatives to act as mentors to your child. You can choose to call these mentors Goodparents, Oddparents, Guideparents, Sparents, Supporting Adults, Special Friends, or any other appropriate name.

Where are Naming or Welcoming Ceremonies held?

Naming and Welcoming ceremonies can be held anywhere you like. They are generally held at the family home (outside if it’s warm and dry), where the baby or child will be most comfortable and feel most secure. Other good venues include:

Village Hall, Pub, Farm, Zoo, Park, Hilltop, Beach

How long does a Naming or Welcoming Ceremony last?

A Naming or Welcome ceremony can be as short as 10 minutes if you are concerned with children getting restless, or as long as 40 minutes if you decide to include lots of fun guest-participation activities within the ceremony. Ceremonies for multiple children will tend to be on the longer side 20-40 mins.

What’s involved in planning a Naming or Welcoming Ceremony?

It is the Celebrant’s job to do all the hard work for you! I provide my clients with an Ideas Generator exercise which helps to focus ideas about the feel, style, and shape of their ideal ceremony. I then make suggestions for readings, symbolic acts and even music, and draft the ceremony script based on the information I have gleaned from the initial meeting and ideas forms and my getting to know you questionnaire. There’s no need for you to trawl through hundreds of poems or websites looking for ideas and no need to feel overwhelmed by the options. I will guide you through every step of the process.

What makes Naming and Welcoming Ceremonies special?

You do. The magic happens when there is a perfect fit between how you feel about your child and the words and actions included in the ceremony. The more honest and personal the ceremony, the more meaningful it will feel for all involved. Instead of religious readings, include things like an excerpt from your pregnancy journal, your child’s favourite story book, the story of their first night at home, the baby’s horoscope. Unlike Christenings, Naming ceremonies are an opportunity to get creative and to reinforce your words with symbolic acts of your choice such as a tree planting, a first step ritual, a treasure trove of wishes and promises, burying a time capsule, or the sponsorship of another child. Finally, ceremony is not religious, ceremony is human. Humanist ceremonies embrace emotion and expression so welcome music, drama and dance recitals; a game of tug-of-war Mums v Dads; and balloons, butterflies and bubble releases all mid-ceremony should you choose!

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But in the end why bother with a ceremony at all? Does your baby’s name really need to be officially announced? Probably not. Will they remember their ceremony or care which songs are played? Perhaps not. Choose to have a Naming or Welcoming ceremony because you want one. The bottom line is, it’s a great excuse for a party!

 

Date nights and late nights

We’re 18 weeks pregnant which is four and a half months. You’d think this would be classed as half way but nope, not until 20 weeks are you half way there. In any case, we have about 20 weeks left of being a childless couple. Naturally it’s got me thinking about how our lives will be forever changed once we have a baby – a third member to our precious family.

As a couple, we treasure our routine treats more than our rare extravagances. A bath after work, a Sunday afternoon second bedtime, a movie, a walk around some woods, fish and chips from Lechlade, going to the hairdresser’s, doing a big Sainsbury’s shop, breathing in the air and taking in the sounds and sights of our village. These are the things we really love about our life, these simple pleasures. It doesn’t seem inconceivable that we’d be able to keep these rituals going once we have a baby in the house.

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And yet, with no baby, we can be selfish. We can choose to let the washing up and laundry mount up, it will only affect us. We can be disorganised and leave things until the last minute, we can handle the stress. We can go to bed later than we know we should, the weekend will roll around soon enough. Things that don’t matter now will come to make more of an impact on our daily lives once the baby arrives.

Parents reflecting and writing about what they wish they’d known and done while pregnant stress the importance of getting in as much sleep as you can, while you can.  Store up those sleep hours you’ll need them! Is that how sleep works though? Taking their advice, I am relishing the lie ins and the fairly unbroken nights of sleep. I am treating myself to leisurely baths, shopping trips, and manicures. I am appreciating time with my husband. Time to ourselves. As a couple.

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Welcoming a baby into our lives is forcing us to grow up. This is a good thing. We are 30 and 31. We have already become much more responsible with money and can prioritise so that we don’t have to go without the things we really care about. The pull on our time and energy the baby will bring means we really need to be as organised as possible at home and with work before the due date. We also need a dishwasher. :)

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We see the baby as an extension of us and believe we can still live as we want to live, and still do those things together to relax and bond, just with the baby part of it. Date nights, Friday nights maybe, we’ll see about a babysitter. Even if we’re too tired to enjoy our movie and fall asleep in the cinema, spilling popcorn all over the floor. Even if we spend our date talking and worrying about and missing the baby, or arguing about money. Date nights force you to rethink, reboot, and reconnect as yourselves. Perhaps they will remind us of our previously childless, well-rested, spoilt selves. I hope they just remind us why we chose to have a baby, and how happy we are that we did.

Love makes us real: Valentine’s Week Special

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Excerpt from The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams

THERE was once a velveteen rabbit, and in the beginning he was really splendid. He was fat and bunchy, as a rabbit should be; his coat was spotted brown and white, he had real thread whiskers, and his ears were lined with pink sateen. On Christmas morning, when he sat wedged in the top of the Boy’s stocking, with a sprig of holly between his paws, the effect was charming.

There were other things in the stocking, nuts and oranges and a toy engine, and chocolate almonds and a clockwork mouse, but the Rabbit was quite the best of all. For at least two hours the Boy loved him, and then Aunts and Uncles came to dinner, and there was a great rustling of tissue paper and unwrapping of parcels, and in the excitement of looking at all the new presents the Velveteen Rabbit was forgotten.

For a long time he lived in the toy cupboard or on the nursery floor, and no one thought very much about him. He was naturally shy, and being only made of velveteen, some of the more expensive toys quite snubbed him. The mechanical toys were very superior, and looked down upon every one else; they were full of modern ideas, and pretended they were real. The model boat, who had lived through two seasons and lost most of his paint, caught the tone from them and never missed an opportunity of referring to his rigging in technical terms. The Rabbit could not claim to be a model of anything, for he didn’t know that real rabbits existed; he thought they were all stuffed with sawdust like himself, and he understood that sawdust was quite out-of-date and should never be mentioned in modern circles. Even Timothy, the jointed wooden lion, who was made by the disabled soldiers, and should have had broader views, put on airs and pretended he was connected with Government. Between them all the poor little Rabbit was made to feel himself very insignificant and commonplace, and the only person who was kind to him at all was the Skin Horse.

The Skin Horse had lived longer in the nursery than any of the others. He was so old that his brown coat was bald in patches and showed the seams underneath, and most of the hairs in his tail had been pulled out to string bead necklaces. He was wise, for he had seen a long succession of mechanical toys arrive to boast and swagger, and by-and-by break their mainsprings and pass away, and he knew that they were only toys, and would never turn into anything else. For nursery magic is very strange and wonderful, and only those playthings that are old and wise and experienced like the Skin Horse understand all about it.

“What is REAL?” asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?”

“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”

“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.

“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”

“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

“I suppose you are real?” said the Rabbit. And then he wished he had not said it, for he thought the Skin Horse might be sensitive. But the Skin Horse only smiled.

“The Boy’s Uncle made me Real,” he said. “That was a great many years ago; but once you are Real you can’t become unreal again. It lasts for always.”

The Rabbit sighed. He thought it would be a long time before this magic called Real happened to him. He longed to become Real, to know what it felt like; and yet the idea of growing shabby and losing his eyes and whiskers was rather sad. He wished that he could become it without these uncomfortable things happening to him.

There was a person called Nana who ruled the nursery. Sometimes she took no notice of the playthings lying about, and sometimes, for no reason whatever, she went swooping about like a great wind and hustled them away in cupboards. She called this “tidying up,” and the playthings all hated it, especially the tin ones. The Rabbit didn’t mind it so much, for wherever he was thrown he came down soft.

One evening, when the Boy was going to bed, he couldn’t find the china dog that always slept with him. Nana was in a hurry, and it was too much trouble to hunt for china dogs at bedtime, so she simply looked about her, and seeing that the toy cupboard door stood open, she made a swoop.

“Here,” she said, “take your old Bunny! He’ll do to sleep with you!” And she dragged the Rabbit out by one ear, and put him into the Boy’s arms.

That night, and for many nights after, the Velveteen Rabbit slept in the Boy’s bed. At first he found it rather uncomfortable, for the Boy hugged him very tight, and sometimes he rolled over on him, and sometimes he pushed him so far under the pillow that the Rabbit could scarcely breathe. And he missed, too, those long moonlight hours in the nursery, when all the house was silent, and his talks with the Skin Horse. But very soon he grew to like it, for the Boy used to talk to him, and made nice tunnels for him under the bedclothes that he said were like the burrows the real rabbits lived in. And they had splendid games together, in whispers, when Nana had gone away to her supper and left the night-light burning on the mantelpiece. And when the Boy dropped off to sleep, the Rabbit would snuggle down close under his little warm chin and dream, with the Boy’s hands clasped close round him all night long.

And so time went on, and the little Rabbit was very happy–so happy that he never noticed how his beautiful velveteen fur was getting shabbier and shabbier, and his tail becoming unsewn, and all the pink rubbed off his nose where the Boy had kissed him.

Spring came, and they had long days in the garden, for wherever the Boy went the Rabbit went too. He had rides in the wheelbarrow, and picnics on the grass, and lovely fairy huts built for him under the raspberry canes behind the flower border. And once, when the Boy was called away suddenly to go out to tea, the Rabbit was left out on the lawn until long after dusk, and Nana had to come and look for him with the candle because the Boy couldn’t go to sleep unless he was there. He was wet through with the dew and quite earthy from diving into the burrows the Boy had made for him in the flower bed, and Nana grumbled as she rubbed him off with a corner of her apron.

“You must have your old Bunny!” she said. “Fancy all that fuss for a toy!”

The Boy sat up in bed and stretched out his hands.

“Give me my Bunny!” he said. “You mustn’t say that. He isn’t a toy. He’s REAL!”

When the little Rabbit heard that he was happy, for he knew that what the Skin Horse had said was true at last. The nursery magic had happened to him, and he was a toy no longer. He was Real. The Boy himself had said it.

That night he was almost too happy to sleep, and so much love stirred in his little sawdust heart that it almost burst. And into his boot-button eyes, that had long ago lost their polish, there came a look of wisdom and beauty, so that even Nana noticed it next morning when she picked him up, and said, “I declare if that old Bunny hasn’t got quite a knowing expression!”

That was a wonderful Summer!

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A beautiful story for children about what love means for us. A popular Wedding reading which would also be great as part of a Naming ceremony. The book would make a wonderful Naming ceremony present.